How slippery is the slope between the Watcher and the Accomplice? I think that many times in our silence, we don't understand that we are, in truth, supporting the inflicted harm. That's not a thought we have. What if you were the driver of the car, and your friends went in and robbed a bank and you knew it was happening? You are an accomplice. So if we're in a space of allowance and excuses around people that we love's behavior, are we not an accomplice as well? How often as a kid, I would hear: That's just your dad. That's how he is. You know, uncle so-and-so, you better walk up a big circle around him. Right? With the common knowingness comes a communal acceptance. Responsibility lies on the child to stay out of reach. Any address to the situation will be directed towards the child as a hushed warning. If we choose to stay with someone that is consistently causing harm that is your choice Until the moment that the behaviors begin to harm your children, your friends, your parents, your family. And you're allowing it, you are an accomplice. No one in the situation has a choice but you. Just because we are victims or survivors does not give us an exempt card. If you can identify yourSelf with the characteristics of a Watcher, think about the consequences of that in the outcome and not only to you or to the one being harmed but the door is left wide open for the harmful behavior to continue. We are actually supporting it. In the recognition of our part we can move into action a place of authority and integrity in those situations, and either defuse them or remove oneSelf and those in our guardianship out of harms way. Our choice to close our eyes comes at a cost. So wake up, Watchers. 👀 😎 👁

Posted by Cherie at 2022-03-30 00:33:24 UTC